Today I was in the music section of the Chapters, talking to Zak who works there. An Eastern European man approached us and, addressing Zak, said “Touch and go, I find you very attractive”.
Turns out he was looking for an album… it was strange.
He starts the article with a conversation that he overheard:
“Woman 1: So has he said it yet?
Woman 2: No. I wish that he would.
Woman 1: Why don’t you say it?
Woman 2: Because it’s too soon.
Woman 1: You’re probably right.
Woman 2: I don’t mind waiting…”
It reminds me of a couple I knew who broke up recently. They’d been together for over 2 years but had never exchanged the Three Words. The guy never said it because he never felt it, and the woman never said it because the guy had never said it. She did love him and if she’d said it, he would not have been able to ignore the position they were in. The position where one feels more strongly than the other. The moment of “where do we go from here?” When it did all finally come out, she was quite hurt that he’d stayed with her even though he knew he would never fall in love with her.
It is perfectly natural to be afraid of being vulnerable, however once the realization of Love has happened,whether expressed or not, the level of investment is set. Your fate is sealed.
However, you cannot expect someone to read your mind.
You are responsible for your own happiness!
So in Madonna’s fine words:
You deserve the best in life / So if the time isn’t right then move on /
Second best is never enough / You’d do much better, Baby on your own
Don’t go for second best, baby / Put your love to the test.
this seems to be my recurring theme song lately. It has come up out of the blue a few times, so I figure I should share it with you.
We were born before the wind Also younger than the sun Ere the bonnie boat was won as we sailed into the mystic Hark, now hear the sailors cry Smell the sea and feel the sky Let your soul and spirit fly into the mystic
And when that fog horn blows I will be coming home And when the fog horn blows I want to hear it I don’t have to fear it
And I want to rock your gypsy soul Just like way back in the days of old And magnificently we will flow into the mystic
When that fog horn blows you know I will be coming home And when that fog horn whistle blows I got to hear it I don’t have to fear it
And I want to rock your gypsy soul Just like way back in the days of old And together we will flow into the mystic Come on girl…